My band is playing at the Speakeasy Thursday night, we're so excited.". Maybe you don't need her number and she can just show up at a place and time. Ask about the cashiers day or tell them about something happening in the store. Hey, this looks like "try this" solution, could you add why using this technic is good and will work? Asking a cashier out is not always an easy prospect. I guess you will soon find out if she answers e.g. Its a very weird situation and I agree with you that I need to speak with him outside of work in order to figure out whats going on. To help us answer, can you edit to give some more detail on the "signs she gave you" which seem promising? August 26, 2005 1:13 AM Subscribe (1) Say something that clearly demonstrates that you like her. And I have a boyfriend doesnt even slow down most of these guys. Scoring a volley in FIFA 22 is an art form that requires skill and finesse. Dont drop compliments and hit on her, asking how her day is doing is all you should do. We always flirted, he always asked me about what was going on in my life, on and on. Working retail, this happens so, so frequently that it stops being flattering and becomes another work annoyance that you have to deal with, plus the unease of not knowing how someone is going to react if you reject them. And its so true; it can be tricky to know if someone just really likes corn or really likes you. She either says yes or no, and if no you honorably and politely take the rejection. I suggest you consider the following: Is she especially nice to you, or is that her normal behavior with many customers? He came and then asked me on a date afterward. But at the same time Dude, shes trying to do her job, and youre kind of holding her up. Maybe mention a place nearby that you frequent, like the coffe shop you visit before work or your gym or the bar you sometimes have happy hour with coworkers at. She will appreciate you phrasing it in a way that doesn't put her on the spot. By entering this site you declare Well, the tricky thing about asking out someone in a customer service position is that their job requires them to be nice to you. From a quick skim of the comments, it seems like Im in the minority opinion here (Im a man myself), but two things: 1. It was very intentional for me to talk to you about games. I dont know; its easy enough to say, Im sorry, I have a policy of not dating coworkers/customers. If your work doesnt allow it, thats an even easier out. If you ever want a tutorial in why this is a Very Bad Idea, go ahead and read the Craigslist Missed Encounters section, particularly the men-for-women. Hello, OP here. If youre looking to get your hands on the Man Catcher in Castle Crashers, then youre in luck! Worse the job requirements often entail being nice to customers, and definitely engaging customers and remaining at ones post. Once you feel (please, do try to assess objectively) she's feeling somewhat comfortable, go in for a more direct hit. With same-sex flirting, I feel like its a zillion times harder. To obtain resin in Conan Exiles, players must collect its in-game nodes from the environment near trees and other plants. Its like, Im working. Take it easy, look how she reacts and accept it even if she is not interested in you. 2) I would be told wow you actually play video games? while striking up a conversation trying to get the customer to reserve an upcoming title or subscribe to our magazine or whatever. ", If she expresses interest in the activity as well, tell her more about it so she can attend: "Yeah, it's really fun. What would think if one of your employees asked out a customer? There would seem to be a paradox, in that lowering the cost of rejection for her increases your chances of success, but there really isn't a paradox. And it was always a minefield to navigate. How to Ask Out a Cashier - Vino La Vino I can see where youre coming from in general, and I apologize if Im misreading you on this, but I hated to see Aaron take the fall for all men because of word choice. Or if you know you have a shared interest from the conversations youve had while in the storelike you both do yoga, you could mention that theres this great little yoga class down by the lake that you go to and maybe he should stop by. This is why her name is "girl" int this post. Also, the OP doesnt need to overthink: the answer is almost certainly no. Hes probably being nice to the OP because being nice to customers is part of his job. I have told him what it is like to be a woman in a customer service environment and he thinks I am exaggerating. I live in Denmark just north of Germany so it's not completely unfeasible that there are some similarities. Adult education class. Im not going to say to absolutely not do it, but I recommend asking him out somewhere other than his job if you see him elsewhere. Its not as dramatic as a manager asking out his employee, but in many retail environments the customer *absolutely* has power over the employee. Back to the prerequisites of whimsy. It was more of a problem dealing with the guys that worked nearby and shoppers in public areas. So the power dynamic is not so different. A lot of comments here are from women saying they get hit on non-stop (and I dont doubt that) but I dont think that really happens to guys (with the except of a select few). Probably about a 95% chance she either is already partnered or not looking, for some good reasons you can't override. This is not okay and very creepy. That fact can confuse the romantic, so special handling is required. How To Ask A Cashier Out? - urbnfresh.com Its safer to assume, fairly or not, that they will react poorly and plan accordingly, especially when it could be your job on the linethey could complain about you to the manager or yell at you and even turn out to be a creepy stalker. Needless to say, I got hit on a LOT. After about 2 months of running into her regularly, you can usually try seeing if shes interested in going to a movie or something. Asking her 10 times more won't bring a better result. She thought he was attractive and they got on well. :/. I work at Barnes and Noble, and I am shocked at how often I get hit on/asked out. The consent submitted will only be used for data processing originating from this website. My goal here is to help you not mess up. Its be a nice pick me up for the day. We flirted for (probably 5) months and I finally asked him out one day. I put the money in her hand, and then she gave change back. I dealt with this just as much in a secretarial position as I did in retail. We were students and had a few regulars known to follow us around the stacks while were working (one would mutter under his breath the whole time, we thought it mightve been poetry ugh). with a side of awkward (sorry, I play for team rainbow, but good luck to you). I dont want to be reminded on a regular basis that people are thinking of me in a sexual way while Im working. Most notably, the fireman passed his number through those people to give to her, and left it up to her to contact him if she was interested. :). How To Score A Volley In Fifa 22? You can try going to the supermarket at different times, e.g. She declined, and he drove by her as she was walking to the bus stop and rolled down his window and asked her again if she wanted a ride. Of course. Now, Im 100% sure this guy would have been an awesome date, and there was nothing threatening or creepy about his approach in fact, if I had any glimmer of interest in men in general, I probably would have taken him up on it. But ultimately, I cant change who I am nor should I. Don't offer compliments, rather, try to just be friendly. Nothing high pressure, just hey call me if you want to get coffee. We hung out a few times, then both moved away from the area but were still friendly now. Asking someone out should never sound like a mere business transaction; this could put off anyone from accepting your invitation! You never know how someones going to handle rejection if you dont know them well (and even sometimes if you do). The best you can do is wait until you at least know her for a whole lot of time longer and write your phone number down, and the next time you finished your business with her you give it to her with a verbal 'I'd like to get to know you, if you want to, send me a You might get the label 'creep' and you might find that your shopping experience will drop dramatically. Bookstore or coffee shop or any number of other public places in which neither of them is at work doing his or her job at the time of the encounter. Asking while she is serving you as an employee violates empowered because she is effectively cornered: she can't step away, she has to serve you. But regardless, you asked whats the worst that could happen, not whats the normal thing that is most likely to happen. And, well, there you go, thats probably the worst that could happen. was a customer that I wanted to hit on me! Some people can make it work, sometimes. If i ever did (which i wont because im too shy, but shes the most beautiful thing ive ever seen) ask her out and she said no, i wouldnt have a problem at all i think women are allowed to decide things by themselves and shouldnt be pressured into saying yes or no. I think as long as its very very casual (coffee date, maybe a museum) and said with a cheerful smile (and maybe a no pressure, I dont want to put you on the spot thrown in there) theres no real harm. But fr what a lot of people are saying here, has the world just gotten that much more creepy? Obviously you dont want to be creepily waiting for him by his car or something, but it could give you a chance to ask him out while hes off the clock. There's an implicit power imbalance between customer and employee. If you cant meet a stranger in a public coffee shop on your own, how on earth is internet dating supposed to work? You typically only hear those kind of stories with hookers and johns (because youre not going to the cops to report a pimp robbing you) but I assume it happens to regular people too. In my opinion, her attitude towards the dynamic of the relationship between you is critical to understanding the best way to proceed. should I take my Etsy business off my resume? I took her for granted and now shes gone. My guess is that the OP is a man, simply because men (of all orientations) are more likely to hit on service employees than women are.
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